Relationships....

Wat comes to ur mind when relationship comes to ur mind?!....i think it is natural that we always think BGR. I mean honestly when u say relationshio naturally it comes to a boy n a girl...couples!! rite?!...when wil u think oh relationship is bro sis mother father relationship?! I'm typing this is coz talk to Jung Teng(JT for short) the other day on the phone and as usual he being himself ask me about girls over here...haha. And i ask how is he and his gf etc etc...then it makes me realise that for some reason that throughout my coll years is him that i talk the most about BGR. Maybe is the way how he says about things and how funny he could haha. And i on that phone conversation he ask me to look for one here and start a new relationship..and i was like "errr....that ar...ermmm.." speechless. Is not like i dun wan a relationship, but after the last one i think a lot. And everytime i think about it, the fear of things happen always pop out. The only time when i did ask the question again without any problematic thoughts is that lonely nite over here where i told myself for nites not to ask but just cant help it.

Ok enuf bout myself..time for the thoughts part about relationship...So again let me ask wat is relationship to u?? BGR?? Family?? And to christians God?? Well i'm gonna address to all 3 which i think all plays a role.

God!! Yes the CREATOR, KING OF KINGS, LORD OF LORDS!! Aint He just great?! you may be asking "wat a relationship with something u cant c?!" First of all God is not a thing, just because we cant c Him doesnt mean he is a thing. If He is a thing then we are a thing of a thing, coz we are created in His image. With that saying that doesnt make Him a human/man nor does it makes us a god. If u try to reason this out go spend time with Him and i bet everything will be explain to you personally. Now a relationship with God is something different than any relationship on this world i hav known. When we have that intimate relationship with Him, He will show Himself to us and everytime when we meet at that special place it feels very comforting, much joy!! And everytime it reaches to a different level. The peace and comfort, joy relieve He gives is different than of those on earth. Well wat i've said so far might just sound selfish desire where i wan to feel the peace then i should hav that relationship. Wrong!!! That is partly the benefit of the relationship with the CREATOR, who created you and know you inside out, from ur deepest secrets to ur surface face. He knows everything about u!! Who in this world would know everything about u?! Spending time with Him everyday, not only will we know the CREATOR more, we also grow spiritually. I cant expalin anymore further how wonderful it is to hav a relationship with Him, for this is need to be done at an individual level and experience it personally.

Now next i would talk about family. Why our having a relationship with them is important?? After all they constantly goes against u in stuff, thoughts like u think u r rite but they think u r not. Or having unreasonable reason/ no reason to scold u, upsets u, frustrates u. But till the end of the day, they are ur family, i'm talking about blood family k?! unless u can take out the DNA of ur parents then u will always be part of that family, that goes the same for bro n sis. No matter how irritating they can be they are still ur bro n sis. As a family i think we should always be tolerate with each other coz i think if ur relationship with ur family is horrible, then next time when u have a family of ur own....it would be just similar to the one u r in. Starting to worry about ur future family??..then start working on making ur relationship with ur own family now!!! I started mine which thru normal eyes cant c any progress. I hav fears of my own too u know!!

Now i think this next part is where everyone is always interested in BGR!!! Dun be shy in admitting it, it is normal, it is in our very own body, the hormones that get us attracted to the opposite sex. But then i'm not saying to blame everything on hormones. We are humans who can control ourselves. I think in this era many take BGR as sex partners...for the adults that is, for kids is like some kind of game, changing bf/gf every week. Teenagers...ermmm...no need to say lar...experiments stage, curious about the physical aspects of the opposite sex. Well i admit i had that stage of teenagers life, but not the kids part. Adult...no need to say lar...sex also hav not done before =P Now BGR is not about the physical aspect, nor should it be a kid thing. I mean it could be cute for a 5 yr old saying he or she has a bf/gf but we should always remember wat r the thoughts we r putting in a small kid's mind, that might be the very foundation in their mind saying BGR is like changing clothes, which is totally wrong!! Teenagers..aww..those years of hormones goes ga ga in our body over the opposite sex. Which is where the danger is, coz of our hormones we tend to make the wrong move. coz of the sudden surge of feeling in us then we go n say i like u, and after sometime where the hormones dun kick in then say to each other i dun like u giving stupid excuses. So teenagers out there dun jump into a relationship so fast, but at the end of the day is ur choice. Well enuf with the physical aspect, how bout the emotion aspect?? Does our 'i love you' is said coz that is wat he/she wants to hear?? Or does it really reflect ur feeling towards that person?? many times we can say i hate u to someone who really upsets u and that reflects wat u feel, so i think when it comes to 'i love you' then shouldnt be the same?? shouldnt it reflect how u feel about a person?? Dun ever say those 3 words if u dun mean it. BGR is not about physical attracttion, which to a certain extent it plays a role, but i think most of it got to do with our emotions. If u can say that ur emotions that caused u to treat the person u like horrible or playing around with people's feelings then that is not wat ur emotion is, it is wat ur attitude is and u how treat relationship like. If ur feeling or that person is really love, u dun go n beat that person, u dun scold, u dun treat them like maids, or ATMs.

And of course in every relationship, whether it is wit God, family or BGR, there is always important things that should always be there. Commitment, Communication, Trust, Faith, Believe. No commitment to the relatioship will be broken easily when priblem arises. No communication with one another, we start to lose that trust, faith, and believe in each other. And without trust in each other, faith in each other, n believe in each other, which is the basic foundation i think in a relationship, then the whole relationship will be just as easily broken.